Hi Len ¡¡¡
I´m glad you step in again
Well, I like your challenge I would like to discuss it for a while.
The first person I felt like dissapointing ,was my father.He is the first person I realize I was always trying to be proud of me ,and of course ,no matter what I do , he always wasn´t.
I realize about this as a grown up , it took me some time ( years ) to get it.
I did react then ,and I followed my heart, I got divorced and I didn´t put any brake in falling in love with Walter ,as an example ,although my both parents were
,for several reasons.
I surely don´t want to regret things I haven´t done ,and feel miserable ,as you said ,I agree.
But ,in my youth ,I didn´t measure my words , as I do , or least I try to do now , and I found myself in a lot of quarrels .
And when it all ends up , I always feel I was getting the worst share , cause I didn´t feel satisfied.
Then I realize ,that if I jump into this situations , I must have a very good reason ,cause surely ,I would get hurted in middle.
So ,altough I know I can be hard enough to stand by my principles ( eg at my work), or having to stand by a friend ,or an unfair situation , I think it twice in other cases ,and always choose not be rude .
It´s true I´d rather prefer to be liked, but I´m also sure ,that If I´m caught in between decissions ,I will pick that one I felt it is fair ,no matter what could happen after that move.
In other situations,.... well I feel more like being the kind and caring person, I already am.
Now it´s your move Len ,I´ll be waiting for you